I practice Hunyuan Fertility Medicine. I use herbs, acupuncture and heart method to help couples get pregnant. I also have friends, IVF doctors, who help couples conceive by using drugs, surgeries and modern technologies. The methods and medical principles are different but they both belong to this worldly realm. Today, however, I want to share a different kind of a story. A patient TTC from age 40 to 46 but nothing ever worked. Many IVFs, herbs, acupuncture, donor egg cycles, ART with and without herbs, with and without acupuncture. There were many tears and desperate moments and I could only do my best to support her over the years. Alas, at the end my recommendation was to cultivate and turn the heart to become good. Liu Yuan of the Huai Xuan school said it already two hundred years ago, “if your heart turns good then the spirit in heaven is moved, it protects you, it nurtures you and gives you good fortune.” The patient finally conceived naturally without any help, now at age 47. No one really knows what happens in the depth of the heart or in heaven, but I trust it is because her heart finally changed. I want to share this letter I received yesterday (with the patient’s permission). If you can circulate this letter to other women who are trying to conceive, I believe, for every hundred women who read and internalize the message of this letter, six or seven will get pregnant naturally, on their own. This is a letter of hope for everyone who is having difficulty to conceive.
Hi Dr. Seidman!
I hope all is well with you and the family.
I have not talked to you in a little while and wanted to give you an update. You know I had two donor embryo transfers in late 2014 and both failed. In January, I became very sick with gallbladder disease and had surgery to remove my gallbladder in February. My periods seem to be a bit off since the surgery and painkillers etc. or maybe the start of menopause. After my gallbladder surgery recovery, I started to think about another donor embryo cycle, although I said in 2014 that this would be the final attempt at motherhood and was coming to terms with that. I was thinking that there will still be great things to accomplish in life without having children. So I was kind of going back and forth, leave things as they are or should I ask the doctor again why it failed. I ended up going back to the doctor in April and he did yet another hysteroscopy to check the uterus. The doctor said that all looks good and he just chalked it up to be that it’s a 50/50 chance of success with a donor. He offered me a discount if I wanted to do another cycle, so we left the office thinking we would give it another try. Our final try! I was thinking I would do the transfer in July or so. After the hysteroscopy, I got light spotting and then got a full period within 2 days. I was not due for 2 more weeks or so. They said that it is normal after that procedure. Then in May, my period was delayed again, I did not obsess about it. Perhaps menopause starting? Still a few more days elapsed and nothing. I really did not know exactly when my last period was because of the bleeding after the hysteroscopy. Is this menopause or what? I could not be pregnant because I was 46 and not trying since that is pretty impossible. I had one last pregnancy test kit that was over a year old and expired, but I still took it. It looked to be positive? How strange, it’s Mother’s day and this is a really bad joke. I knew the test was way past the expiration date, so it must have been an error. I went about my day celebrating mother’s day with family. I really did not think much of it that day. That night I decided to get a new pregnancy test kit. I took it and that showed positive. Now my heart was beating real fast. It not only showed positive, but it was one of those tests that measures high and low levels of HCG. It was high HCG. I called the doctor on Monday and they confirmed. So now they wanted to do ultrasound. As you well know I was not jumping for joy, my past experiences were not good. The doctor confirmed that the sac was present, but they thought it should be bigger. But then again I was not certain the date of my last period. I already knew the story of how these ultrasounds go, with the size not progressing as it should etc. They wanted me to come back in a week. I was trying to stay positive, but as you know, I have been down this excruciating path before many times and always ending in tragedy of miscarriage and other bad news. I told them I will come back for ultrasound only when they will be sure to see a heartbeat etc. So I decided to go back at 8 weeks. They confirmed baby was there! A miracle! I am now going on 16 weeks. They already did cell free dna testing, which I was terrified of the results as YYY and I are both 47 at this point! The testing came back with great results! A miracle. I am doing well. Just starting to relax a bit and starting to enjoy this without being consumed with worry. I just had to share this miraculous news with you. 47 and pregnant, naturally! I still can’t believe it and from what I read, science can’t believe it either. I hope and pray all goes smoothly. I feel incredibly blessed! I know it’s a long story here, but I wanted to share it all with you….it’s so strange, how things can turn out.